Success Is A Decision: Here Are 5 Ways To Make It Happen Everyday

If I were to ask most people if they would like to be successful, 100% of them would likely say yes.  

However, most people’s actions don’t reflect that. We’re generally unaware that it’s that easy: decide to be a success right now.

Most people have a misconception of success.  They think that it’s an end result to those who were “lucky”, “fortunate” or just simply “better” than they are.  But it’s not.

“Decide today to be a big success in everything you do.” – Brian Tracy

Success is a choice you make every single day.  And it’s the ones that consistently say “yes” to success that reach it.

My recent conversation with Ralph Barsi helps break down the 5 steps to choosing success.

Become Attractive

“Success is not something you pursue, it’s something you attract by becoming an attractive person.”

– Jim Rohn

This does not mean that in order to be successful, you need to be the sexiest person in the room (though it probably wouldn’t hurt).  

Think about the people you deem to be a success. My bet is that most of them have a certain “it” factor that you can’t put your finger on.  

People enjoy being around them, they look forward to seeing them.

That’s because they do the little things right:

  • Look people in the eye
  • Strong handshake
  • Tell the truth
  • Be enthusiastic
  • Always follow-up

How can you make yourself more attractive to success?

Have A System

“Losers have goals, winners have systems.” – Scott Adams

Successful people have a structured plan of attack.  They plan the work and work the plan.

What are a few examples of this?

  • Set up tomorrow’s schedule the night before – get organized
  • Do an 80/20 analysis to make sure you’re spending time in the right places
  • Look back to former successes – what is the map that got you there? Rinse and repeat

Take Control

“You’re not here to survive this, you’re here to take charge of it.” – US Navy SEALS

If you’re reading this, you’re probably a millennial like myself.  We get a bad rap – lazy, entitled, the list goes on and on. Flip that stigma on its head and do the opposite.  

Amelia Boone is one of the top Obstacle-Course Racers (think Spartan Race or Tough Mudder) in the world.  When Tim Ferriss asked her one quote that she would put on a billboard, she said: “the world doesn’t owe you anything.”

She’s right.  You’re not here to survive life or just “get by.”

You’re here to make a difference.

To be your best self.

To change the world.

It all starts with one step.

Win or Learn

“I never lose. I either win or I learn”. – Nelson Mandela

Life is not one giant moment.  It’s a series of millions of moments.  

You can’t control what happens at every moment, but you can control how you react to it and the meaning you apply to each moment.

I interviewed The Wolf of Wall St, Jordan Belfort, and he shared a story that most people don’t know.  When he was 23, he was selling meat & lobsters door-to-door.  His entire business went south and he went bankrupt. He had to make a decision about what happened.  Did he fail because he wasn’t cut out to be an entrepreneur or can he take his learnings from this event to become better?  

He chose to believe the latter and that changed his life.


“The student goes to a master and says ‘I’m discouraged, what should i do?’

The master says, ‘Encourage others’.

– Zen Proverb

Perspective is huge.  It’s really important to realize that we are all only one small cog in the engine of the world.  

When in doubt, think of others. Find a way to add value to them.

Can’t make the sale? Struggling in your relationship? Think your boss is a jerk?  Do one thing today that makes their day better.

The world gives to the givers and takes from the takers.

Action Item

Now you know: success is a choice that we can make every single day.  

Decide to be great today and let the momentum carry you forward.


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Mentioned In The Show:

Jim Rohn

Morgan Ingram

Chet Holmes

Scott Adams

Jocko Willink

Jordan Belfort

Andy Frisella

Jordan B Peterson

David Goggins

Joe Rogan

Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson

Tony Robbins

Mark Divine

Brian Tracy

Steve Prefontaine