If I were to ask most people if they would like to be successful, 100% of them would likely say yes.
However, most people’s actions don’t reflect that. We’re generally unaware that it’s that easy: decide to be a success right now.
Most people have a misconception of success. They think that it’s an end result to those who were “lucky”, “fortunate” or just simply “better” than they are. But it’s not.
“Decide today to be a big success in everything you do.” – Brian Tracy
Success is a choice you make every single day. And it’s the ones that consistently say “yes” to success that reach it.
My recent conversation with Ralph Barsi helps break down the 5 steps to choosing success.
Become Attractive
“Success is not something you pursue, it’s something you attract by becoming an attractive person.”
– Jim Rohn
This does not mean that in order to be successful, you need to be the sexiest person in the room (though it probably wouldn’t hurt).
Think about the people you deem to be a success. My bet is that most of them have a certain “it” factor that you can’t put your finger on.
People enjoy being around them, they look forward to seeing them.
That’s because they do the little things right:
- Look people in the eye
- Strong handshake
- Tell the truth
- Be enthusiastic
- Always follow-up
How can you make yourself more attractive to success?
Have A System
“Losers have goals, winners have systems.” – Scott Adams
Successful people have a structured plan of attack. They plan the work and work the plan.
What are a few examples of this?
- Set up tomorrow’s schedule the night before – get organized
- Do an 80/20 analysis to make sure you’re spending time in the right places
- Look back to former successes – what is the map that got you there? Rinse and repeat
Take Control
“You’re not here to survive this, you’re here to take charge of it.” – US Navy SEALS
If you’re reading this, you’re probably a millennial like myself. We get a bad rap – lazy, entitled, the list goes on and on. Flip that stigma on its head and do the opposite.
Amelia Boone is one of the top Obstacle-Course Racers (think Spartan Race or Tough Mudder) in the world. When Tim Ferriss asked her one quote that she would put on a billboard, she said: “the world doesn’t owe you anything.”
She’s right. You’re not here to survive life or just “get by.”
You’re here to make a difference.
To be your best self.
To change the world.
It all starts with one step.
Win or Learn
“I never lose. I either win or I learn”. – Nelson Mandela
Life is not one giant moment. It’s a series of millions of moments.
You can’t control what happens at every moment, but you can control how you react to it and the meaning you apply to each moment.
I interviewed The Wolf of Wall St, Jordan Belfort, and he shared a story that most people don’t know. When he was 23, he was selling meat & lobsters door-to-door. His entire business went south and he went bankrupt. He had to make a decision about what happened. Did he fail because he wasn’t cut out to be an entrepreneur or can he take his learnings from this event to become better?
He chose to believe the latter and that changed his life.
Give
“The student goes to a master and says ‘I’m discouraged, what should i do?’
The master says, ‘Encourage others’.
– Zen Proverb
Perspective is huge. It’s really important to realize that we are all only one small cog in the engine of the world.
When in doubt, think of others. Find a way to add value to them.
Can’t make the sale? Struggling in your relationship? Think your boss is a jerk? Do one thing today that makes their day better.
The world gives to the givers and takes from the takers.
Action Item
Now you know: success is a choice that we can make every single day.
Decide to be great today and let the momentum carry you forward.
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Mentioned In The Show:
Jim Rohn
Morgan Ingram
Chet Holmes
Scott Adams
Jocko Willink
Jordan Belfort
Andy Frisella
Jordan B Peterson
David Goggins
Joe Rogan
Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson
Tony Robbins
Mark Divine
Brian Tracy
Steve Prefontaine